University and children/childcare

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SACHA
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University and children/childcare

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Hi everyone.

I was just wanting to know if anyone can help me out. I am currently doing the Access to Higher Education in Midwifery but would really like to start a family next year with the view of going to Uni in 2012. My boyfriend will be working away most of the time so i will have to do most of the parenting myself. Is anyone else in my postion who is at Uni? Is it hard trying to fit in time to do Uni work/placements with young children to look after? Can this be achieved?

Any help would be much appreciated.

Thanks x

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Hi Sasha,

Yes a few have done it, but it will very much depend on the child care you can find and also the support of your family, as it can be hard with very young children.

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gabrielle
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A lot have tried, and very few succeeded. Newborns are very demanding and you can never understand until you have one.
My youngest is 22 months, and can't see how I will manage uni until she is in school all day. Wish you luck!

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Hi Sacha,
I am 26 with 3 children and I am currently taking the nursing access course.
My children are 5,6 and 7. I studied in 2006 via distance learning too. I'm not saying it's easy because it rarely is, but it can be done, the key is organisation, time management, sticking to your own deadlines and above all regular breaks!! I hope I have helped and I wish you every success and happiness a family really is my biggest achievement! :-))

Kind regards,

Lisa

SACHA
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Thank you very much for the replies, i really do want to start a family i think it can be achieved allbeit very difficult. Thanks again.

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Hiya,

I'm in the same position! I'm currently preggy with bump 1 and due to pop in April! Studying the access course while pregnant, working full time and trying to plan a wedding (yes, I am a crazy psycho before you ask) has been HARD I have to say... mostly because of my energy levels. I was made redundant at the end of January which has eased the pressure somewhat as I receive SMP from them still (they have to, legally) but I find I cannot get through a day without a cat nap, my mind is all over the place (baby stuff, wedding, uni etc) and I still have to get my head in gear enough to study. It's really not easy doing this course while expecting... tomorrow is my exam and baby is due in 4 weeks!! I'm REALLY looking forward to getting it all out of the way so I can relax and enjoy the last 4 weeks of freedom, though sod's law states baby will make an appearance tomorrow just to REALLY mess things up!!

One word of warning though... you WILL struggle at uni if you are pregnant. Having a small baby is different, but being pregnant at uni is a NO NO! This is because with all health courses, you have to go out on placements. The uni will find it EXCEPTIONALLY difficult to find a placement for you while you are pregnant for health and safety reasons. Placements have to make arrangements to accomodate pregnant members of staff, but as you are NOT a member of staff, they are NOT legally obliged to do this for you and therefore are unwilling to take you on full stop. This is what I was told by my university. If you don't go out on placements, you WILL NOT PASS. Simple. My advice... do as I am doing... get the baby out BEFORE you go to uni and wait till you have finished the degree before trying for baby number 2. If you do fall pregnant at uni, I was told they should advise you to defer for a year in order to overcome this stumbling block. It is your choice whether you carry on trying while at uni and risk adding another year on to your study plans, or if having a family quickly is more important.

Also, bear in mind that contrary to what XXX ed at school would have you believe, it can take up to a year to fall pregnant (only 10% of couples get pregnant in their first month, and specialists aren't really interested if you haven't been trying for a year)... my bump took 1 miscarriage and another 10 months to finally turn the pee stick to positive! Don't bank on it happening overnight. So plan for that eventuality and decide when you will stop trying. i.e. "if it hasn't happened 10 month before uni, we'll stop trying till after uni"

As for being at uni with a nipper... my little one will be about 4/5 months old come Sept. My only concerns are how it will affect my plan to breastfeed (will have to express once I am at uni, and perhaps start weaning early to ease baby's reliance on me, of that I am sure) and what I will miss out on while baby is growing at a rate of knots! I'm lucky in that I have supportive family, a man who works from home more often than not and my uni has a subsidised nursery for nippers of students and professors (have you looked into that? It will be a VERY big factor in your uni choice, some have a nursery, some don't and won't won't accept babes under 4 months old). If my plan will work or not, I'm not certain. All I can do is hope, try my best and work D@MN HARD!!

What I keep in mind is that however hard it is... in 3 years time my earning potential and ability to provide for my children will increase DRAMATICALLY. They will get a standard of life I cannot provide while I languish in being nothing but a poxy, unhappy administrator. I will have a secure job in the NHS and I will have more confidence. All of these things will make me happy and confident, which in turn will make little one happier (happy, relaxed mummy = happy, relaxed baby). Plus, it is doubtful that little one will even REMEMBER mummy being at uni and being preoccupied with studying so my guilt levels over that are not that high.

Anyway, I hope this helps! Perhaps we could keep in touch as we progress with babes through uni? Support and encouragement not to give up will be key to our success I think!

Good luck with baby/uni plans!!

Georgia

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Fantastic reply Georgia. Well done and very good luck

All the very best

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Hi Georgia
That was THE most inspiring, positive post I've read to date! Whish I had half your optimism! Good luck with uni and a baby, I hope you get were you want to go!

Lisa :-)

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Hi Georgia!!!!!!
Really nice and exciting to hear from you again!!!!!! As usual, you're so inspiring!!
Well done! Please let us know when baby arrives!!!
All the best to you... Which uni are you getting in in the end?

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Hi,

I am doing the Access to Paramedicine, I started the course in July and now my son is 7 months old. I have found it quite hard at times to juggly a baby, housework, bills and this course, so you have to structure yourself, I have a time table that i follow now, and any DLC work that I do is done at a night time when my son is in bed. However I am applying for University this year and I am heavily relying on family to help me out with childcare and I am looking into nurserys, saying that my partner is absolutly fantastic but unfortunately my partner works 12 hour night and day shifts and due to his wage I am not entitled to Child tax credits :( So just try and organise things. If you are starting a family next year my only advice would be is to enjoy your time with your baby as your whole world changes and it changes for the better. But you do not realise how much time a baby takes up until you have one, especially newly born and when they start crawling like my son has started to do that is why I have chosen to do the work on a night time other wise he would be chewing the laptop which is his extremely famous for lol. Good luck x

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